How to Stop Arguing with your Partner so much

If you're reading this you have witnessed or been in a relationship filled with arguments. You may have heard someone say "your going to argue in a relationship" (which is true and actually helps if used correctly) but some people get confused by this and use arguments just to get their point across. This brings be to my first point.

Listen

When your partner brings up an issue listen. She/he isn't bringing it up "just to argue" they genuinely feel some type of way. Disregarding the way they feel could damage your relationship. Allow them to get everything off their chest. When you think they're done talking wait five seconds just to see if they have more to say. It shows them you care about what their saying and you are genuinely locked in. Body language also says a lot so don't be looking away or shaking your head truly try to understand where they're coming from. Grasping this alone will help tremendously with any arguments.

Don't Point Fingers

I thought I asked you to stop talking to him? I thought I asked you to stop following her? We can all agree that in most arguments we tend to point out others mistakes even when we are in the wrong. We have to truly listen to our partners when they bring something up and not be so quick to flip it on them. Bringing up what she/he did years ago won't help. You may win the argument, but you completely disregard your partners feelings to make yourself feel better. If you have something on your mind, right now is the best time to tell your partner. Waiting until an argument will only fire things up. Two people trying to get their point across at the same time hardly works.

Speak your mind

You shouldn't wait until your getting yelled at to bring up something that's on your mind. Don't build up anger and then explode when your partner gets mad at you for something. Both of you have valid points but youre more angry. You let it build up and now you don't want to hear what your partner has to say. If you feel like you can't bring something up to your partner then should you really be with them? Bringing something up to your significant other can be vulnerable at times so find someone who won't take advantage of that.

Arguing is going to happen in your relationship but these are a few you tools you can use to settle things down.